Body Language: What Are You Giving Away?
“Body language is a very powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently, 80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words.” –Deborah Bull
Think about it: we spend a lot of time “reading” others. We all have “tells” that offer insights into what we’re really thinking. Example? Even when we sound sincere, if our bodies say quite the opposite (ex., being turned away), alarm bells go off for the listener/viewer.
In poker, "tells" give players away. For example, there might be something that a person does when he's bluffing or perhaps when he has a winning hand. Our bodies involuntarily react and project our feelings, often without our awareness. Body language is an important part of what we present to others; being "in the moment" is crucial for connecting with others.
Takeaway: Focus on the whole person and listen to the three types of language: spoken, body and unspoken in order to understand what's being said and what's meant (NOT always the same thing).